Signed in as:
filler@godaddy.com
Loving Conflict is...
trauma & nervous system-informed skills for:
+ transforming relationships
+ practicing skillful communication
+ strengthening collective nervous systems,
+ building trust.
As we build a world organized by transformative justice, Loving Conflict supports our relationships at the interpersonal and neighborhood level.
Relational Facilitation Sets
Loving Conflict sessions are facilitated relational repair, not therapy. Our focus is on transforming dynamics and establishing the agreements that best serve the relationship as it is transformed.
We offer this work in sets of 10 or 6. One-off sessions may also be arranged.
- A 10-set of loving conflict work includes six 75-minute facilitated group sessions, and up to four 45-minute 1:1 consults, as needed.
- A 6-set includes four 75 minute group sessions and up to two 45-minute 1:1 consults, as needed.
- One-off sessions can focus on supporting an individual through conflict, building up skills & strategizing together on the sidelines.
Before our first group session, we complete at least one 1:1 consult with each person involved, during which we identify the goals and needs of each person in the relational work.
Once those are complete, we send an outline of the collected goals which guide our discussion in the first group session. In that session, each person shares their agreement or edits to the goals and we organize them by priority. All the following group sessions follow the outlined goals for that set.
Loving Conflict practice group: Winter 2026
Loving Conflict is a commitment to everyone having skills for relational care and transformation.
This group is a learning, unlearning, and practice space - in the lineage of Transformative Justice - for anyone wanting to build relational skill.
We practice tools for co-creating understanding,
explore models of stress and inherited conflict patterns,
practice giving and receiving apologies,
navigate making new agreements in a relationship, and more.
10 weeks
90 min meetings
Online
$50 / week
Practice & participation focused
All weeks will be recorded for cohort use only
Organizational Facilitation & Workshops
Loving Conflict organizational work includes facilitation, 1:1 consults, and customized workshops. Our focus is on transforming conflict, building culture, and practicing skills that fit into your work context. All organizational offerings are tailored to the goals identified in the consult calls.
Three common ways organizations partner with Loving Conflict:
Conflict Transformation Package
- 3 90-min group facilitations
- 1:1 consults with all involved
- Customized workshop for building more skillful conflict culture in your context
- Detailed and actionable notes on every facilitation
Conflict Transformation package is offered on sliding scale for groups of up to 6, up to 12, or more than 20. Your organization may qualify for subsidized rates by the Resilience Fund.
Build Conflict Culture Package
- 1:1 consults with every team member
- Collaboration on a conflict process & procedure that fits your team
- 3-4 customized workshops to practice conflict skills and implement your team process
- Detailed notes & slides for future reference
Build Conflict Culture package is offered on sliding scale for groups of up to 6, up to 12, or more than 20. Your organization may qualify for subsidized rates by the Resilience Fund.
Leadership Support Package
- 1:1 and group support for leadership team of up to 4 individuals navigating a current conflict in the organization
- Collaboration on conflict transformation strategies & skills
- 1:1 and group nervous system support through the conflict
Leadership support package is offered on monthly retainer: up to 8 support calls per month and priority booking for conflict facilitations and team workshops.
From Practice Group participants...
Mekdela Maskal: Fall 2024 cohort
Mekdela Maskal: Fall 2024 cohort
Mekdela Maskal: Fall 2024 cohort
Loving conflict showed me the power of relational group practice and affirmed me in my commitment to repair.
Through the practice group I was able to shift from resentment about my childhood conflict experiences into understanding the skills and strength that I developed through them.
Oli De Jesus: Spring 2024 cohort
Mekdela Maskal: Fall 2024 cohort
Mekdela Maskal: Fall 2024 cohort
Being able to hold 'love' and 'conflict' in the same sentence has been life altering.
As a traditionally conflict-averse person, I feel myself leaning into conflict more, feeling more curious and excited at the prospect of engaging in it.
With the loving conflict tools, conflict feels more demystified and approachable. I'm also less afrai
Being able to hold 'love' and 'conflict' in the same sentence has been life altering.
As a traditionally conflict-averse person, I feel myself leaning into conflict more, feeling more curious and excited at the prospect of engaging in it.
With the loving conflict tools, conflict feels more demystified and approachable. I'm also less afraid of making mistakes or getting messy in the process because there are tools for meeting/mending that too.
JJ Kingman, Winter 2025
Mekdela Maskal: Fall 2024 cohort
Grietje Evenwel: Spring 2025
We had an amazing cohort!
I really enjoyed the enthusiasm everyone had in showing up each week.
Joining Loving Conflict changed the way I perceive conflict and not shying away from it. But seeing it as transformative.
It’s helped me with all my relationships including my friends, coworkers and partner in building trust within the relationship and growing together.
Grietje Evenwel: Spring 2025
Mekdela Maskal: Fall 2024 cohort
Grietje Evenwel: Spring 2025
The tools we learned during the Loving Conflict practice sessions brought clarity and structure to what are often messy and complex situations. Walking away from the experience, I feel like I now carry a backpack full of practical tools I can turn to when tensions rise.
Does someone need space? What are they actually saying—versus what I
The tools we learned during the Loving Conflict practice sessions brought clarity and structure to what are often messy and complex situations. Walking away from the experience, I feel like I now carry a backpack full of practical tools I can turn to when tensions rise.
Does someone need space? What are they actually saying—versus what I think they’re saying? What parts of our history matter in understanding what's unfolding right now? How can I offer a genuine, heartfelt apology—one that takes full ownership of my part? Or, how do I ask for one when I need it?
Conflict is an inevitable part of life, and that’s okay. But having tools that allow us to navigate it with care and connection makes all the difference.
Spring 2025 participant
Alyssa Mittiga, Fall 2024 cohort
Spring 2025 participant
I wish everyone learned these skills in elementary school!
I joined this group because it was recommended to me, and had little idea what to expect. It far exceeded my expectations and I plan to join again. I will never look at relationships the same way.
Fall 2024 cohort
Alyssa Mittiga, Fall 2024 cohort
Spring 2025 participant
Loving Conflict is now one of my core daily practices. I use it in my partnership, with colleagues, in community, with family members... it has also guided me through my healing work to repair around major harms I've experienced.
The principles, the frameworks, the tools -all of it is so immediately implementable in a transformative way
Loving Conflict is now one of my core daily practices. I use it in my partnership, with colleagues, in community, with family members... it has also guided me through my healing work to repair around major harms I've experienced.
The principles, the frameworks, the tools -all of it is so immediately implementable in a transformative way. I am a more skillful and effective organizer because of them.
Alyssa Mittiga, Fall 2024 cohort
Alyssa Mittiga, Fall 2024 cohort
Alyssa Mittiga, Fall 2024 cohort
Moving through loving conflict with my community members has allowed us to deepen our transformative justice, village based work at an “everyday” pace.
I’ve noticed that we are able to “level up” collectively more often, now that folks have skills and practice at moving through hard challenges instead of moving around them.
This allows us
Moving through loving conflict with my community members has allowed us to deepen our transformative justice, village based work at an “everyday” pace.
I’ve noticed that we are able to “level up” collectively more often, now that folks have skills and practice at moving through hard challenges instead of moving around them.
This allows us to grow and transform collectively!
We recommend moving through this special work with fellow beloveds so practice can become integrated into collective rhythms.
Winter 2025 Cohort
Alyssa Mittiga, Fall 2024 cohort
Alyssa Mittiga, Fall 2024 cohort
This practice group has changed how I hold leadership at work, but has also deeply resourced my marriage.
Within a few weeks of Loving Conflict, I was bringing skills into team meetings and seeing the difference.
I have been in all kinds of groups weekly for the last 15 years and can say that this Loving Conflict group is one I recommend regularly.